Building the Perfect You
Sunday, January 20th 2008 @ 12:52 PM
Building the perfect you is about consciously adopting empowering qualities and abandoning the negative qualities you have subconsciously adopted over the years. Learn how to do this.
remember playing video games that let the players choose their character. Each available character has strengths and weaknesses, yet all the characters are equal overall. For example, in the game “Tekken”, at times I would choose the bear, who's very strong but tends to be very slow. Other times, I would choose Lee who was very fast, but not that strong. In real life, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, but unlike these video games, by no means are we all equal. In real life, we have the ability to maximize our strengths and minimize our weaknesses. All it takes is conscious effort and awareness.
For the purpose of this article, assume that your actions, behaviors, and thoughts make you who you are today, since you have a certain degree of control over these. Also understand that I use the word "perfect" loosely, knowing that perfection is, for the most part, unattainable. Building the perfect you is about consciously adopting empowering qualities and abandoning the negative qualities you have subconsciously adopted over the years. These qualities come in the form of
- mannerisms
- gestures
- words (expressions, sayings, vulgarities)
- reactions
- habits
- hobbies
- ideas
- beliefs
Who are you? Think about those people in your past and present who have been an influence to you: family, friends, teachers, spiritual leaders, actors, and even world leaders. Can't you see some of their qualities in yourself? Parents are so concerned with their children being negatively influenced by their peers, yet as adults do not realize that they are influenced in the same way. Being influenced by others is not something one "grows out of". Once you are consciously aware of this influencing process, you can begin by "rebuilding" yourself by changing your actions, behaviors, and thoughts. Then, start adopting the positive qualities from those you admire most.
We are all, to some degree, a product of our environment. Subconsciously we have become like those who have been an influence to us in our lives. We do not have to accept this as who we are - we can choose to change who we have become and start becoming the person we really want to be. Do not let habit and adversity to personal change get in the way of your success. Take the time and make the effort to build the perfect you.
